It’s not about confessing your partner’s sins. It’s about speaking in a way that allows your partner to hear you. As in actual listening. Yep! Every word… heard. Here’s another hint: It’s about safety.
Criticism and demands keep you from being heard and perpetuate pain and frustration. It’s not fun and it doesn’t work, so why do it? Because it’s an unconscious, defensive, habitual pattern. Break the pattern; learn more positive ways to live, love and communicate.
My next weekend workshop for gay and lesbian couples is April 14 – 15, 2012, here in Atlanta. Please pass it on!
Happy Spring! Oh, and speaking of happy, wouldn’t you know that you’ll both be happier when you feel understood?