Preparing for and Receiving the Greatest Benefit from Couples Therapy.
The four C’s: commitment, curiosity, compassion and communication.
Commitment means going all in, letting go of other options for at least three months, while we work on restoring your relationship. Commitment to a new way of communicating, listening, understanding. For best results, commit to the *process*, along with commitment to ending negativity, and accepting the fruitful challenge growth. It’s not easy, but it is so worth the effort.
Are you willing to commit to 3 months of working with me in weekly or bi-weekly sessions, following through on homework assignments, attending a workshop, all with the goal of truly giving this process a chance to work?
Curiosity is an extremely helpful construct to replace judgment. Your judgment of each other is part of the problem, as it triggers negativity and defensive reactivity. If you find that you’re not understanding your partner, try cultivating curiosity as you attempt to learn more about your partner’s world.
Likely you are both hurt. Compassion for each other’s pain, and the pain you’ve caused is healing. Your ability to to take responsibility for your words / behaviors that have hurt your partner is necessary for your own growth, and healing in the relationship.
Will you commit to curiosity and compassion?
Are you willing to communicate using the hallmark of Imago Relationship Therapy, the intentional dialogue?
If the answers to these questions are yes, you are good candidates for Imago Therapy, and I can assure you that you will begin seeing improvement early in our work together.
It is my honor to work with you, and look forward to seeing the results of your commitment!